The University Counselling Service is offering all its counselling online in Trinity term. Here we provide a few tips for students looking to make the most out of their remote sessions.
Over the last few weeks the Counselling Service has helped many students adapt to the coronavirus situation: to help get their bearings, cope with difficult living situations and/or family contexts, and to feel and function better.
It is possible to form solid, personal connections online - even with a counsellor you’re meeting for the first time; and you can get just as much done as when working face-to-face.
Based on our experience over the last few weeks, we’d like to offer a few pieces of advice:
1. Ask yourself what you want from counselling
Before you start, it’s important for you to reflect on what you really need and want from counselling now. If you were seeing a counsellor previously, ask yourself whether it feels right to continue. Don’t feel you have to—you may not have the mental bandwidth right now.
If you haven’t had counselling before, and feel uneasy about meeting on-line, please give it a try. You may be surprised at how straightforward it feels, and how helpful it is.
2. Take it seriously
Counselling works best when it is treated as a serious professional meeting, with some degree of formally. Joining a video call from bed, wearing your pyjamas, or in a busy room won’t make for a productive session.
To make the most of your counselling, it is helpful if you allow at least 15 minutes to gather your thoughts ahead of the session, and a similar time to reflect and digest afterward. (In normal times, travelling to and from the counselling service creates a natural opportunity for this.)
3. Get your set-up right
Your physical set-up will make a big difference.
To start with, make sure you have a good internet connection, and find somewhere private to sit where you can relax and communicate freely.
We’d also appreciate you taking time think in advance about where you’d like to sit and how to position your laptop or phone so that we can see you properly.
It is hard to make a strong connection if we can’t see the whole of your face or you are moving around a lot. Ensuring we can see you properly will go a long way to making the session feel like a normal human-to-human encounter. (If you’ve ever attempted to empathise with a forehead or a chin, you’ll understand!)
4. Tell us if you’d like alternatives
Let us know if you have concerns about privacy and confidentiality. We believe video calls are the best substitute for face-to-face meeting, but if necessary we can communicate with you in other ways. For example, it can work well if you type your side of the conversation and the counsellor responds by speaking.
With a little care and thought, we believe that together we can make on-line counselling a positive and productive experience. If you have experienced online counselling and would like to offer any ideas or feedback please don’t hesitate to get in touch with the Counselling Service.
Meanwhile, we want to extend a warm welcome any students who would like an appointment. We are very much open for business and ready to help!